IN ONE OF THE BLESSINGS OF THE SHEVA BRACHOS, WE MAKE REFERENCE TO THE NEWLYWED COUPLE AS BEING " RE'YIM AHUVIM " ( LOVING FRIENDS )
THERE IS A MESSAGE BEHIND THIS EXPRESSION.
IN ORDER FOR A CHOSSON AND KALLAH TO BE " LOVING FRIENDS, "
( I know this from the relationship I had with my dear wife A.H. )
( AS RABBI SAMUEL WOSNER ZT'L SAID TO ME TILL YOU MAKE THIS BRACHO IT IS NOT POSSIBLE TO BE LOVING FRIENDS
AS THIS BRACHO ASKS G-D TO PUT INSIDE YOU THIS FEELING OF LOVING FRIENDS IT IS NOT JUST A NATURAL INSTINCT )
THEY NEED TO HAVE THE CAPACITY TO BE ABLE TO SAY TO EACH OTHER
" THIS IS NOT THE WAY TO DO IT; THIS IS NOT THE WAY TO ACT "
IF ONE IS DESERVING OF IT THE TYPE OF WIFE A PERSON WILL FIND WILL BE ONE WHO WILL BE A " RE'YAH AHUVA " ( A HELPMATE OPPOSITE HIM)
MAY WE ALL MERIT HAVING SUCH TRUE FRIENDSHIP BETWEEN OURSELVES AND OUR COMPANIONS AND OURSELVES AND OUR SPOUSES.
