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Thursday 31 October 2013

JEWISH MARRIAGE

IN THE  JEWISH  MARRIAGE CEREMONY WE MAKE A BLESSINGS FOR THE BRIDE AND GROOM UNDER THE CHUPAH, ALSO THE WHOLE SEVEN DAYS OF THE SHEVA BROCHES.
THE REASON, SEX IN THE MARRIAGE IS NOT EVEN TOUCHED UPON, ONLY IN THE LAST OF THE SEVEN BROCHES WE MENTION:
PLEASURE, DELIGHT, LOVE, BROTHERHOOD, PEACE AND COMPANIONSHIP.
RABBI SHMUEL WOSSNER TOLD ME ONCE THAT WE HAVE TO SAY THIS BROCHE
AND IT IS VERY IMPORTANT.
IF YOU DO NOT ASK THIS FROM THE RIBONO SHEL OLAM,
THAT IN YOUR MARRIAGE YOU SHOULD HAVE LOVE, BROTHERHOOD AND PEACE
FROM YOUR PARTNER,
THEN IT DOES NOT MATTER HOW MUCH YOU DESIRE YOUR PARTNER,
YOU WILL NEVER HAVE TRUE LOVE.
AS TRUE LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP IS A PRESENT FROM G=D.                  
 ( TO LEARN TO LOVE G=D )
AND WITHOUT YOU PRAYING AND REQUESTING IT,YOU WILL NEVER GET IT.
HAVING LOVE FOR ONE ANOTHER IS BROUGHT THROUGH THE THIRD PARTNER IN A MARRIAGE. THAT IS G=D ! !
THAT IS WHY RABBIS DANCE A MITZVAH DANCE.
THEY ARE NOT ONLY DANCING FOR THE BRIDE AND GROOM, ( BUT AT THE THIRD PARTY PRESENT ) G=D WHO IS PRESENT AT EVERY MARRIAGE.
THEY ARE PRAYING  THAT G=D WILL PUT INTO THIS MARRIAGE LOVE, BROTHERHOOD AND PEACE.
THE YETZER HORAH HAS MADE THE MITZVAH DANCE INTO ENTERTAINMENT
AND MARRIAGE INTO SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP.
 WHAT A PITY! ! !

GLUCK BAND AND RABBI DENDEROWICZ


AGUDAS YISROEL (YISHMOEL)


Sunday 27 October 2013

SEXUAL ATTRACTION

I WAS TALKING WITH A FEW YOUNG PEOPLE ABOUT LAST WEEKS SEDRA THAT 
AVROHOM  HAD A CHILD FIRST AT EIGHTY SIX AND THEN  AT NEARLY A HUNDRED.
EVEN IN AVROHOM'S TIME IT WAS CONSIDERED AN ACHIEVEMENT.
THEY SAID THAT A MAN CAN DO IT FOR EVER AN EVER.
I WAS SURPRISED THAT THEY DID  NOT KNOW THE FACTS OF LIFE
AND THAT YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH A WIFE  WHICH 
DOES NOT INVOLVE  "LADIES AND GENTLEMAN".
ONE OF THESE YOUNG PEOPLE WAS SO SHOCKED THAT HE SAID TO ME YOU CAN TAKE VIAGRA AND GO ON FOR EVER AND EVER.
I SAID TO HIM THAT THE BODY DIES OVER THE YEARS.
 THE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS OF A MAN DIE BETWEEN 50 AND 70. 
MOST MEN AT SEVENTY DO NOT HAVE OR ARE ABLE TO HAVE A SEXUAL LIFE AS IN THE YOUNGER YEARS.
ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE LIKE ME, YOU HAVE DIABETES TWO.
I WAS ONCE, YEARS AGO BY DAYAN AHARON DOVID DUNNER'S SHIUR THAT A MAN CAN GO ON FOR EVER AND EVER.
I SAID TO HIM THIS IS NOT TRUE AND YOU CAN NOT BUILD YOUR MARRIAGE AROUND THIS.
THE WOMAN GET PAST IT AND SO DO THE MAN.
YOU HAVE TO BUILD YOUR MARRIAGE AROUND MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING AND
LOVE AND CARING FOR EACH OTHER, SEX ALONE IS A MISTAKE TO BE AN 
ATTRACTION BECAUSE THIS DIES LONG,LONG, BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY DIE.
WE HAD A DR BY THE SHIUR AT THAT TIME, DR SPITZER AND HE CONFIRMED WHAT I SAID.
I WAS SURPRISED AT THE IGNORANCE OF SO MANY YOUNG AND OLDER PEOPLE
 THE BOTTOM LINE IS DO NOT BUILD YOUR MARRIAGE AROUND SEXUAL ATTRACTION.

Thursday 24 October 2013

LEARNING TO BE COME ONE

AS YOU WILL HAVE NOTICED I HAVE BEEN A WAY ON HOLIDAY OVER THE YOM TOV PERIOD .
I WAS NOT SURPRISED TO HERE THAT IN THE FEW WEEKS BEFORE YOM TO 
THE UNION OF HEBREW CONGREGATION OF RABBI PADWAH
HAD GIVEN 22 GITEN. LOTS OF PEOPLE SAID TO ME THEY DO NOT UNDERSTAND
RABBI PADWAH
I SAID I UNDERSTAND HIM VERY WELL 
HE IS A ROV AND NOT A COUNSELOR IT IS NOT HIS JOB TO KEEP PEOPLE 
TOGETHER, SPECIALLY IF BOTH SIDES AGREE TO A GET ( DIVORCE )
ONE OF THE RABBIS ONCE SAID TO ME, DID THEY ASK ME WHEN THEY GOT
MARRIED  ?  IF I THINK THE GIRL OR BOY ARE MATURE ENOUGH TO GET MARRIED ?
THE PROBLEM STARTS  WITH THE PARENTS, A BOY AND GIRL HAVE TO BE EXPLAINED WHAT BEING MARRIED IS ALL ABOUT.
THEY TEACH THEM IN SCHOOL ARTS AND CRAFTS ETC. ETC.
THEY MARRY THEM OF YOUNG, ESPECIALLY THE BOYS SO THEY SHOULD NOT STRAY.
THE GIRLS ARE NOT TAUGHT THAT THEY HAVE TO DRESS ATTRACTIVE, NOT ONLY
 WHEN THEY GO TO A CHASSENE.
BUT ALSO FRIDAY NIGHT WHEN THE HUSBAND COMES HOME FROM THE BEIS HAMEDRASH.
MY WIFE HAS ALWAYS DRESSED FRIDAY NIGHT AS IF SHE IS GOING TO A WEDDING.
ON MY WAY HOME FRIDAY NIGHT I SEE SOME OF THESE YOUNG WOMEN THEY DO NOT LOOK TWENTY FIVE BUT FIFTY. 
THEY WEAR NO WIG JUST A BIG SHMATTE ON THEIR HEAD OR WHITE TIECHEL, THEY WEAR THE SO CALLED SHABBOS-GOWNS WITH NO UNDERWEAR UNDERNEATH.
I AM NOT SURPRISED WHEN THESE HUSBANDS  STRAY AND WANT A DIVORCE,
ON THE OTHER  HAND THE BOYS HAVE NEVER BEEN TAUGHT THE ART OF LIVING
TOGETHER WITH A PARTNER, ( HAVE THE GIRLS ? ? ) AS THE TORAH SAYS
AND THEY SHALL BE ONE FLESH, G=D WANTS A MAN AND WOMAN TO BE AS ONE 
UNIT.
AS THE LEV SIMCHA OF GUR TOLD ME BEFORE MY MARRIAGE :  " A JEWISH MARRIAGE IS TO MAKE YOUR HOUSEHOLD ONE UNIT. " MAN AND WOMAN ARE ONE.
 I HAVE NOT STARTED ABOUT THE PROBLEMS THAT COME WHEN THEY HAVE CHILDREN.